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Rudolf Allers

Self Improvement

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Personality flaws CAN be conquered.

Catholic University psychologist’s celebrated guide has no equal in half a century.

First, said Dr. Rudolf Allers, face the unvarnished truth. Identify the flaws. Then, get to the root causes. Finally, take the action he prescribes for the particular flaw. Change will come in time. Allers was a past master not only at explaining personality traits, but also at dispensing simple advice. And it was all “based on Christian morals,” noted the delighted Catholic Journal of Religious Instruction. His book caused a minor stir because it revealed, for the first time, that “many defects in behavior commonly excused as natural disposition or temperament have their source in willful attitudes” that are concealed even from ourselves, as Ave Maria magazine put it. More importantly: “Many of our faults and much of the difficulty that results in our lives because of them are of our own making.” Allers provides example after example chapters like these:

  • Difficulties in Social Life
  • Difficulties with Work
  • Obstacles to Perfection

Uncovering the truth Most people don’t learn the truth about their personality flaws until someone loses his temper and reveals them, Dr. Allers counseled. (He also explained why people often don’t know their best traits.) Among his findings:

  • why it’s not easy to know yourself, without training
  • why “getting along with others according to generally accepted standards is not enough”
  • why your actions reveal more about your personality than your intentions or thoughts or feelings do
  • reasons for common misunderstandings between family members
  • allegedly “intractable” husband-wife disagreements
  • how to end tactless (if well-meaning) behavior
  • what’s usually behind shyness
  • the gossipy personality
  • the “know better” type
  • the “reporter of catastrophes”
  • lack of punctuality, and the vice that usually accompanies it
  • impatience: when it’s deeply rooted and when not
  • St. Augustine’s startling self-analysis
  • Confession and psychology: very different
  • threefold meaning of human behavior
  • why spiritual directors are valuable
  • the weak will: really divided into two
  • good news: personality transformations do occur — all the time
  • big myth: your personality development ends at adulthood
  • heredity and environment do mold you, but not conclusively
  • the importance of proper speaking; 3 common traits annoying to others
  • motives of the compulsively critical person
  • why ironic people are usually disliked
  • male/female personality differences; why small things affect a marriage in big ways
  • ways parents undermine their own authority
  • the slob at home or work
  • talk too much? Women and men can be guilty
  • how fatigue can change you
  • hyperactivity

Dr. Allers’ powerful final section, “How to Help Oneself,” shows how defects which render a person obnoxious to others (and certainly to God) are rooted out with practice, and prayer.

Additional information

Writer

Rudolf Allers

Format

Hardcover